When you work in a service based profession it is easy to confuse service with pleasing. After all, you are probably in a service business because you like to help people.
If you want to succeed as a service based business, you have to think about yourself too.
Pleasing looks like:
Being available at all hours, constantly changing your schedule to accomodate others, working for free ( I don't mean some pro bono or volunteer work), the hamster wheel effect, physical symptoms of anxiety or tiredness from doing too much.
The health of the healer. This may be the most important time in modern history to be taking this seriously.
When there is true, whole health, the service provider ( coach, consultant, nurse, trainer, teacher, etc…) has themself in the picture.
It is not selfish to ask yourself, who do I want to work with, or what would be fun for me?
It is not selfish to create office hours, client days, days off, time away from email.
It is not selfish to want to help people and make good money.
I can do anything is NOT the same thing as I should do everything.
Complete self-sacrifice, you know, the kind that drains and exhausts us, is not something to wear as a badge of honor.
How about if women STOP doing that?
Being in service to yourself is a responsibility, so that you don’t choose to live a default life, or a victim’s life - Only being responsible to clients & customers and not to yourself is not compassionate or in service to them or you.
To your health and in service to others,
Ellie
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