Hey there,
We are being tested right now in many ways, to maintain our energy, our sense of calm, and our resilience, just to name a few.
One model for change looks at how we move through fear, learning and growth zones. This isn’t linear, as no change is, but thinking about where you are day to day can help with your choices. It’s easy to remain in the fear zone or the learning zone. In the fear zone, your Amygdala (emotion center in your brain, gives you the fight or flight reaction to fear) is hijacked, you can feel very stuck, over-whelmed and anxious. In the learning zone, you are more proactive, finding ways, maybe new ways, to manage what life brings your way.
How do we move into the growth zone, where we have choices, stress is lower, we are growing, even thriving?
Here are 6 actions associated with growth, which also promote resilience:
Thinking of others
Living in the present, focusing on what you can control
Planning for the future based on values and commitments
Making your talents available to others. In other words, get out there and do your stuff
Looking for ways to adapt, use a growth mindset
Practicing patience
Which might you practice as a tool to strengthen your resilience?
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Managing emotions is clearly another way to build resilience, and right now for many people, emotions are running the gamet.
Mark Breckett at The Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence has a handy acronym for managing emotions. I think this is accurate in it’s simplicity.
R U L E R
Recognize your emotion
Understand the cause and consequence
Label it
Express it
Regulate it
What is one daily act that will help you use the RULER acronym with your emotions? Examples are simple things like breathing, journaling, and meditating.
Oh, and remember to share this with the kiddos in your life, even ages 3-5 year olds can begin to do this. They will really benefit, as emotion regulation is not taught in schools, and the sooner you start the better.
Many of my readers are women with small businesses, and there is a lot to say in this arena, but 4 important traits for business resilience, especially right now are:
Flexibility. Keep looking for ways to pivot.
Creating loyal customers. Serve. Serve. Serve.
Having a deep understanding of what your clients want.
Persistence. Be in it for the long haul.
Ask yourself if you are attending to these important areas of your business, and if not, carve out time to plan how to improve. Your future self will thank you.
My hope is that a piece of this newsletter helps you find or increase your own resilience.
Be well,
Ellie
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