You cannot control all of your thoughts AND you can manage the direction of your thoughts.
Once we recognize that we are not our thoughts, that they come when they come, and there are many of them - some research says many tens of thousands a day - we can learn to be unattached, and our confidence no longer depends on what we think.
What a relief, isn’t it??
Let this sink in for a moment. What if your confidence did not depend on what you think? What if you could hear and just notice your thoughts, and say, “oh, that’s interesting?”
Will you try it? Practice being unattached. Be an observer, with awareness, without judgement. Step back and be a little curious.
Remember, awareness without judgement.
It is only when we attach meaning to our thoughts that our reality is created. You do not have to create a meaning…
Let’s say I make a mistake at work. My thought is something like, “What an idiot. Why would I screw that up? or my thought is, “ I made a mistake. That is not what I intended.”
Aren’t I likely to feel quite different? Isn’t the former likely to affect my confidence?
And guess what – most of us do this many, many times a day to ourselves!
So, watch your own mind! Yes, listen to yourself because you can be a director in your mind, if you choose to.
Building the mental muscle takes practice.
Managing your mind is the foundation for success. You can have all the systems, marketing, goals, planning, etc… but if you aren’t running the show of your mind, you won’t get to where you are meant to be.