In Donna and Lynn Brooks' book Seven Secrets of Successful Women, they describe performance, perseverance, practice, and patience as key features of any success strategy.
No surprise, right?
Which of these four do you want to put attention on right now?
Remember, when I talk about success, I believe it's created from the inside out and you create your meaning of success.
Here are few ways to create success from the inside out {hey, that's a good tagline for a coaching practice} that I've found pretty darn useful for myself and my clients.
Hope they help you, too.
Which of these ideas could you use, while applying the four P's, to make one small shift heading in the direction you want to go?
1. Become more visible and offer your knowledge
It’s not ego based, it’s serving, if you are helping others. If you have fear - public speaking, online lives, etc... - you know the drill, change is through the doing. It's WAY worse in our minds.
2. Be present
Your genuine and full presence is a gift in your professional and personal life.
3. Clarify and use your top strengths
What are your top 3-5 strengths that serve you best in life or in work? There are many good assessments to learn about yourself: StrengthsFinder, 360, Enneagram, HBDI are a few of them.
4. Focus
Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it. Multi-tasking, while it feels productive, is less efficient. And most importantly, your worth is not based on your finished TO DO list.
5. Strive for excellence, not perfection
There is no such thing as perfection. The most successful people know they will fail at times. Go for progress, growth, drop the perfection trap.
6. Claim your personal power
Power is about having responsibility for the direction of your life. Denying your power erodes self-confidence and can create depression, stress, or anxiety.
7. Stop apologizing
There is an entire book by Rachel Hollis on this topic. Women are notorious for apologizing too much.
8. Master self-care
Absolutely critical foundation piece for life satisfaction. You can go without for a while, but eventually you will PAY - just make time for small shifts, before you regret not doing so.
9. Become clear about why you do what you do
Connect deeply with what drives you, keep in touch with it, and success and fulfillment become inevitable.
10. Stop complaining.
An example made me laugh recently as I caught that I do this sometimes- wake and say, "damn, I'm still tired!" Starting the day with a complaint- not good mojo. Accepting what IS in any moment may be the single most powerful path to inner peace and joy, and of course that frees up your energy, which then leads to external success, with ease.
And here is a BONUS step, couldn't leave this out -
11. Mobilize a support system
Every successful woman I know has a mentor, coach, women’s group or a strong network of people, even if just a few, who has her back. I love that young women know this these days - in my 20's, I did not realize the immense value here.
Ok, none of this is rocket science, guys. It's the doing it consistently and persistently, oh and with patience towards yourself, that is the key.
Many of my clients are creative visionary types, and like me, can want to do all 11! Do yourself a favor, start with 1 or 2. Make it doable & manageable, not a race. No badge of honor for tackling it all.
Whenever you are ready to take your growth and success to another level, here are 4 ways to work with me:
1. Bold New Boundaries, 2.0. This master level program will start this Spring. Please contact me for details or to apply.
2. Apply the Enneagram as your personal development map. I'm now offering stand alone sessions even if you aren't a client. The Enneagram is an incredible tool for looking at how you think, act, and feel, and it offers many strategies for growth.
3. 1:1 coaching. Tailored plans and time frames, depending on individual needs/goals. 3- 12 months.
4. Thinking partnership. Do you have a business idea, a project, or an idea? You want to strategize, brainstorm? This is not coaching - it's focused and short term. Email me with thinking partnership in the subject line, and we'll talk about how this may serve you.
If you are interested in the above, please email me at ellielanecoaching@gmail.com