Hey readers!
It felt odd writing about confidence - after all, my clients are successful, wise people, often at the top of their game.
What I've seen though, is that even the most intelligent and successful people have self-doubts - so consider this a friendly reminder for you, for anyone and everyone, not only those who really struggle with confidence.
Some people believe:
People either have confidence, or they don’t.
You need confidence in order to... fill in the blank.
Confidence is hard to come by.
The truth is:
The feeling of confidence is available to everyone.
It is an ongoing process, a practice, not a destination.
You do not need confidence to take on challenges.
Truth is, we are deeply affected by early life experiences { " Give me a boy until he is 7, I'll give you a man." Aristotle } in the area of confidence.
If those experiences are still getting in your way, it is a sign of strength to get assistance clearing out the cobwebs. There are many ways to do this - ask me, if you want suggestions or help with this.
And, I'm here to be the bearer of GOOD news -
True deep inner confidence is created throughout life through self-awareness, self-acknowledgement, resilience - a sense of knowing you can manage, and the certainty that you are OK, regardless of circumstances.
Confidence is not what we see on the outside. People who are more extroverted, look good, or show up wonderfully on social media give the perception of having confidence.
Don’t let the external glitz and glam fool you. It likely has absolutely nothing to do with what’s really going on inside and since we know comparison is quite detrimental to our confidence and overall wellbeing - Don't do that.
I love it when my 20 something clients or teens tell me they've deleted Instagram.
Confidence is being at peace with who you are.
It also comes as a result of being courageous, hard work and mastery. My favorite example is a baby learning to walk – babies don’t think, oh I’m sure I can walk, so here I go! They just try, and fall, repeat. Their confidence grows as they work at it, and they are received with love.
Think of confidence as a state of being that is available to you in any moment. It is not fixed or static, the feelings will shift, that’s human.
If you’d like ideas for practicing daily confidence strengthening, click here.
Get in touch if you'd like to see deep shifts in your confidence at work or the rest of life. Change your thinking, change your confidence.
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